tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post764497777716075665..comments2024-03-22T15:04:41.999-05:00Comments on Table for One: GenderSolitary Diner (Also Known as The Frugalish Physician)http://www.blogger.com/profile/01239189582752445700noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-27345264842963717872016-03-07T09:13:27.853-06:002016-03-07T09:13:27.853-06:00In emerg, I really struggle with being a woman, in...In emerg, I really struggle with being a woman, in particular with being a small woman with a big personality (because, let's be honest, I am not shy or quiet) and a loud voice. On the one hand, I'm expected to learn to lead resuscitations with authority. On the other hand, if I do it just as the boys do (which is what comes naturally to me), I am variously called 'cocky' or told that 'you came off as a bit of a bitch in there'. If I hold back, someone (usually a male attending or resident) takes over. Similarly, I'm either told that I'm 'too social' if I'm friendly with the nurses (which, again, comes naturally) or that I don't make enough of an effort with the nurses if I focus on patient flow. I'm constantly searching for these happy mediums even though I'm pretty sure they don't exist for a female resident with my personality. I don't think the male emerg residents face the same challenges and critiques.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-50605579071148241592016-03-04T16:23:48.516-06:002016-03-04T16:23:48.516-06:00As a medical student I have noticed that on days t...As a medical student I have noticed that on days that I dress more femininely I garner less respect or attention from male classmates and both female and male physicians. On days when I dress more masculine (pants, and collard shirt) I am given almost equal respect (emphasis on the almost). Its ridiculous. Kayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03549745119392562695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-45243233004106451362016-02-27T23:09:40.924-06:002016-02-27T23:09:40.924-06:00For what its worth I hold the female doctors aroun...For what its worth I hold the female doctors around me in high regard, the male ones - often not so much. The male co-chair in your example was certainly wrong in his behaviour. <br /><br />From a male perspective, its just as wrong to expect men to be hyper competitive all the time as it is to expect women to be passive. Its absurd that men are expected to "compete all the time, even in a collaborative environment where it is harmful, but if we don't we will be unconsciously penalised by our peers. <br /><br />Emasculation, as a word and concept, should be removed from our society. The answer isn't to turn women into cocky idiots too - men must be freed from the need to one up their neighbours, in doing so women will be liberated as well. I regularly call people out for mocking men for their perceived inferiority, I sometimes get odd looks for it, but I wish more people would. I have seen even feminist women participating in this system of rewarding cocky men and discounting the rest, perhaps it is not widely appreciated how important it is in maintaining the division between the sexes but it is important, just as important as how we treat women.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-50541252267561432372016-02-27T22:12:31.429-06:002016-02-27T22:12:31.429-06:00I've already noticed that I am being encourage...I've already noticed that I am being encouraged to contribute less than the men. If I participate in discussions the way men do, I'm told I contribute too much, even when I keep track and I'm objectively contributing less than the men. If I have an opinion, no matter how cautiously or politely expressed they are, I'm 'bossy' or 'difficult.' I've already received a negative evaluation because I disagreed with someone politely, whereas males in the same group were praised for having differing opinions. It is so frustrating. <br /><br />For the last few years, I've worked in a setting where all of my immediate superiors and their superiors were women. Strong, successful, professional women. I was encouraged to speak my mind (respectfully) and to actively participate in decisionmaking even as a very junior team member. I feel so very out of place in medicine where there is a very clear expectation that I should be quiet and let men speak. I've noticed it in lectures and group settings and it just makes me want to scream. <br /><br />But I can't say anything. Or I get negative evaluations which can kill my career before it even starts. I knew medicine could tend towards old boys club but I'd have thought med school would be a little more progressive. It's not. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com