tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post1847782289941033314..comments2024-03-22T15:04:41.999-05:00Comments on Table for One: Should We Call Out Other Bloggers?Solitary Diner (Also Known as The Frugalish Physician)http://www.blogger.com/profile/01239189582752445700noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-86311681169328359382017-11-06T08:32:26.250-06:002017-11-06T08:32:26.250-06:00Answer: Sometimes it can be worth it.
Reality: L...Answer: Sometimes it can be worth it. <br />Reality: Letting it go is often easier and if you can do that, you may have a less angst filled life.OMDGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17937425894428802591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-40909769632557210092017-11-06T06:40:26.381-06:002017-11-06T06:40:26.381-06:00One time I met a woman at a botany event in Califo...One time I met a woman at a botany event in California and she seemed really nice and invited me to join her and friends on a yacht ride. About an hour in, people started bitching about Spanish speakers in California. The absurdity of this, based upon historical factors and demographics, struck me and of course I spoke up. I was a teacher of Spanish-speaking students and was not ok with a bunch of white people speaking ill of my charges and their families. <br /><br />It got rancorous. And I realized I was on a boat in ocean with people I don't know and I hadn't told anybody where I was going. I locked myself in the head and waited to return to land. NOt that I really thought that I was in actual danger, but I definitely wasn't going to shut up, and "accidents" happen. <br /><br />Did that make me stop speaking up? Of course not. It did make me avoid being in groups of all-white people, though. Many of my favorite people are white and many are great, and many others are not, and in a group where everyone has white skin it's too easy for casual racism to be expressed and that's exhausting. I do remind myself: not as exhausting as if I weren't white, though, and so I power on. <br /><br />There are other ways to approach this that are at least as valid as my way. I don't suggest everyone become confrontational. But I do suggest that we find our ways to stand up and resist what is wrong. Otherwise we'll get a hateful demagogue as our president and ... oh wait, too late. <br /><br />NOLAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05572754078356812922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-69951056145986138732017-11-06T06:31:43.703-06:002017-11-06T06:31:43.703-06:00Yes! It would be a much better place indeed.Yes! It would be a much better place indeed.NOLAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05572754078356812922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-19133930053781094142017-11-05T22:01:23.005-06:002017-11-05T22:01:23.005-06:00It's true that he has the right to post the ca...It's true that he has the right to post the cartoon...but I still think he shouldn't! I think the world would be a much better place if we all made a greater effort to stop being assholes.Solitary Diner (Also Known as The Frugalish Physician)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01239189582752445700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-60042716678021028292017-11-05T22:00:27.010-06:002017-11-05T22:00:27.010-06:00From what I know of your online persona, it doesn&...From what I know of your online persona, it doesn't surprise me that you would call people out on things. Which is great! But yes, some of them are ridiculous enough that you just have to ignore them. I'm starting to learn that the hard way after a lot of wasted energy arguing with lost causes.Solitary Diner (Also Known as The Frugalish Physician)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01239189582752445700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-81082004049566139242017-11-05T20:20:45.635-06:002017-11-05T20:20:45.635-06:00He has every write to post the cartoon and you hav...He has every write to post the cartoon and you have every right to criticize him; that's the beauty of the West. He doesn't have to take it down because it offends you... and you don't have to go to his site again.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09959282435264812597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-63604644684719102612017-11-05T12:32:16.319-06:002017-11-05T12:32:16.319-06:00Once I posted a comment on a Facebook post by one ...Once I posted a comment on a Facebook post by one of my very favorite writers. He had used the word "less" instead of "fewer" and I just said - hey, what do you think of using fewer? That seems to flow with your writing and I'm so fond of that word. GOOD GOD you would have thought I'd attacked him viciously. People turned on me so angrily and were just mean. I don't care if people like me (being an Alaskan and not a Canadian), but some of those responses were way out of control.<br />NOLAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05572754078356812922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-82139665295601116492017-11-05T12:29:36.025-06:002017-11-05T12:29:36.025-06:00Not just on blogs, but I try to speak up whenever ...Not just on blogs, but I try to speak up whenever I can. Sometimes it's not worth it - if I make a comment of my disagreement with the position, I often don't have the time or energy to go into great depth, and I don't expect that everybody who disagrees with me has to do that labor to educate me, either. I'm grateful for when people call me out because they are helping me see either how I'm misstating something that I don't really mean, or how my biases need to be faced. <br /><br />At the same time, there are some things that I will just reject. Somebody once posted on my blog about how my struggles with my challenging dog were a result of my weakness as a human and all sorts of stupid shit. That doesn't deserve a response. Delete. <br />NOLAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05572754078356812922noreply@blogger.com