tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post8954896652424898708..comments2024-03-22T15:04:41.999-05:00Comments on Table for One: Do I Need to Make Resolutions?Solitary Diner (Also Known as The Frugalish Physician)http://www.blogger.com/profile/01239189582752445700noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-33864654065156473222018-01-16T09:01:15.577-06:002018-01-16T09:01:15.577-06:00Great question. I struggle with the urge to make r...Great question. I struggle with the urge to make resolutions too, and really liked author John Green's video suggesting to make a list of what to leave behind in the old year and what to take with you into the new one. It is harder, but more therapeutic. Even so, I did make a list, but called them goals to take the pressure off, and I started with little ones like wash the good knives and put them away when I'm finished with them, and compost more. Instead of exercise, my goal is to walk, move and stretch more. I haven't disappointed myself yet with this year's list. I really like ZJ's comment too, and might have to rename my list as intentions.<br /><br />Sorry about your patient. Doctors and nurses are angels on earth, and I don't know how you do it, but thank you.<br />Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10114884092474969555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-87783697690348686152018-01-16T08:26:45.019-06:002018-01-16T08:26:45.019-06:00Lol that is too funny. Lol that is too funny. OMDGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17937425894428802591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-3472067666874880782018-01-16T08:01:12.848-06:002018-01-16T08:01:12.848-06:00I like the idea of intentions too. My performance...I like the idea of intentions too. My performance coach encouraged me to set daily intentions, and while I don't do it every day, I tend to do it on days when I'm struggling, and it can make the struggle easier to get through.<br /><br />Even though you don't have people dying all the time in your work, I'm sure you still see bad things happen. It's challenging to be empathetic sometimes!Solitary Diner (Also Known as The Frugalish Physician)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01239189582752445700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-37507361303956986042018-01-16T07:58:40.604-06:002018-01-16T07:58:40.604-06:00Ha! Tired typo. "Readying" Although t...Ha! Tired typo. "Readying" Although there is a good possibility that I will "read" myself to death in retirement.Solitary Diner (Also Known as The Frugalish Physician)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01239189582752445700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-84878575282876728962018-01-16T05:48:44.446-06:002018-01-16T05:48:44.446-06:00I didn’t think I said anything about reading....I didn’t think I said anything about reading....OMDGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17937425894428802591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-27521822890140338752018-01-15T21:20:14.920-06:002018-01-15T21:20:14.920-06:00I'm not a resolution sort of woman, but I am a...I'm not a resolution sort of woman, but I am an intention sort of woman. For most of the past 5 years my driving goal was to grow in empathy. For myself and others. This year, I'm not sure that is my goal. I'll still work on being the best version of myself both personally and professionally, but I think I need a different growth target for this period in my life.<br /><br />I'm with you on hating monotony. I definitely hate my main gig right now, but I need to show up and earn money and pay down debt. But it is definitely drudgery. <br /><br />I'm sorry about your patient. I do different work from you, but I think it will be hard the first time a person I've been helping for awhile passes away.ZJ Thornehttp://www.zjthorne.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-31721618596358297792018-01-15T19:26:07.860-06:002018-01-15T19:26:07.860-06:00My comment was mostly in response to you describin...My comment was mostly in response to you describing retirement as "reading yourself to death", because I don't view retirement as a downhill slide towards death. I'm not sure how I will feel when I retire, but I won't miss the stress and anxiety of work. I am definitely working on making life better now, and things have gotten a lot better since I ditched the ex-girlfriend.Solitary Diner (Also Known as The Frugalish Physician)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01239189582752445700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-23014029578573771302018-01-15T19:23:34.971-06:002018-01-15T19:23:34.971-06:00A few years ago I did a challenge every month, and...A few years ago I did a challenge every month, and I kind of enjoyed it. I did pretty well with most of the challenges except for the exercise ones!Solitary Diner (Also Known as The Frugalish Physician)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01239189582752445700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-49180901362187876452018-01-15T11:27:53.046-06:002018-01-15T11:27:53.046-06:00Perhaps I'm misinterpreting, but you seem to b...Perhaps I'm misinterpreting, but you seem to be falling back into the trap of, "My life will be better when I finish this next part..." which you've been saying to yourself all through med school and residency. Life is probably going to feel the same once you get to retirement as well, albeit with different things that leave you feeling unsatisfied. Is there a way for you to work on enjoying the process? It might make you happier. This isn't unique to you. I also find the continuous self improvement and the constant striving to be a bit tiresome, but I also know that I'm happier overall when I experience a bit of pain from pushing myself too. Maybe you're not like that, maybe you are.OMDGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17937425894428802591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-4569020467282587642018-01-14T12:50:24.186-06:002018-01-14T12:50:24.186-06:00Thanks. I was hoping he was going to pull through...Thanks. I was hoping he was going to pull through, but alas, not everyone does.<br /><br />Self improvement for the sake of self improvement is definitely exhausting. I've done a lot of good self improvement in the past few months though, and it's been really rewarding and has increased my happiness, but I think it has been good in this case because it has been things I really want to change. Maybe that's why I'm so ambivalent about resolutions this year; I'm already doing the things I know I need to do in my life. (I even went to the gym twice this weekend! Which I think means that I don't need to exercise again for at least six months.)Solitary Diner (Also Known as The Frugalish Physician)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01239189582752445700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-13618487600994837382018-01-14T12:47:31.368-06:002018-01-14T12:47:31.368-06:00Monotony is a challenge for me, as on the one hand...Monotony is a challenge for me, as on the one hand, I am a creature of habit and dislike change, but on the other hand, I get bored with monotony! I'm trying to figure out how to enjoy the comfort/security of it while keeping life interesting.Solitary Diner (Also Known as The Frugalish Physician)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01239189582752445700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-89966502817484173292018-01-13T21:38:24.017-06:002018-01-13T21:38:24.017-06:00I'm sorry about your patient... think it's...I'm sorry about your patient... think it's pretty normal and healthy to be sad and need some time to grieve him. <br /><br />Also the constant push for 'self improvement' is just exhausting. <br />If you do want to change something (not that you have to) why not make it something fun or silly that brings joy? I laughed so hard when a friend told me she was making the resolution to eat more eggs benedict that year but it was kind of the best. <br />Canuckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03386196132946386809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-20520413681855751502018-01-13T20:35:16.025-06:002018-01-13T20:35:16.025-06:00I like the idea of a month long challenge. I may t...I like the idea of a month long challenge. I may try that out. Although for exercise, I'd likely need to go to a weekly challenge. hehDouble Debt Single Womanhttp://doubledebtsinglewoman.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-11649926284539736002018-01-13T15:58:18.987-06:002018-01-13T15:58:18.987-06:00I think a lot of folks see the monotony in their l...I think a lot of folks see the monotony in their lives as something miserable. Some may find it comforting in a way, but it takes a real effort to change it. Maybe just do a few small, but different things. Nicoleandmaggie's idea is a good one and you've done a similar thing not long ago. Any changes take an effort, but if you want a change you'll do it. Btw, I don't do resolutions either.Jonohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08972784604428236278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-79922783811473629722018-01-13T15:54:57.149-06:002018-01-13T15:54:57.149-06:00I'll have to look it up. I've never heard...I'll have to look it up. I've never heard of it before.Solitary Diner (Also Known as The Frugalish Physician)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01239189582752445700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-52590277995903422652018-01-13T15:53:54.578-06:002018-01-13T15:53:54.578-06:00I'm actually looking forward to retired life, ...I'm actually looking forward to retired life, so worst case is that I'm viewing the next 10 years as time to kill before I start to do the fun stuff. Which isn't a great way to live, but I'm not sure that making resolutions is the way out.Solitary Diner (Also Known as The Frugalish Physician)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01239189582752445700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-27178221321325351022018-01-13T11:37:28.254-06:002018-01-13T11:37:28.254-06:00You make it sound like you see the next 10 years a...You make it sound like you see the next 10 years as time to kill before you start readying yourself for death. That is pretty bleak. Maybe people make resolutions so they don’t feel that way?OMDGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17937425894428802591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-87758705653600181242018-01-13T10:58:21.170-06:002018-01-13T10:58:21.170-06:00Reading this while watching The Human Comedy (old ...Reading this while watching The Human Comedy (old movie). Watch it this cold weekend if you get a chance.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-14828584118938618802018-01-13T08:49:46.344-06:002018-01-13T08:49:46.344-06:00I remember those posts! A single month is definit...I remember those posts! A single month is definitely more manageable. Maybe I'll try that instead.Solitary Diner (Also Known as The Frugalish Physician)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01239189582752445700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4654303930129608743.post-43412182637804084772018-01-12T19:52:55.792-06:002018-01-12T19:52:55.792-06:00We do a February challenge post instead. It helps...We do a February challenge post instead. It helps that Feb is the shortest month!Nicoleandmaggiehttp://nicoleandmaggie.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com